Yeah, I got screwed.

But who doesn’t have the same exact start to their story?  Unfaithfulness, dishonesty, immaturity, or just being ill-suited for each other – we’ve all been there.  So why do we still all treat each other the same when we date?  What do we learn from these experiences, and how do we grow to find that one amazing person?

When I became single 3 years ago, one of the first things I thought was: “Please God no, do NOT put me back out there.”  Completely terrified, I entered the dreaded world of “singledom”, where men and women spend their nights on the town in a constant state of alertness, ready to meet “the one”, or at least “the one” of the hour.  Singledom, where you feel guilty running out to the corner to grab milk in sweatpants, because what if you meet them then?  Singledom, where your relationship-committed friends feel like it’s their duty to bestow advice upon you (“I swear, it’ll happen when you’re not looking!”).  Singledom, a wild jungle of tangled games, where you’re not allowed to (gasp!) be honest about your feelings, or respond to a text message before a 20-minute wait time.

Yes, being single can be great.  I can eat jelly donuts in bed with sugar all over my face, and there’s no one there to see.  I can watch 5 episodes of Gilmore Girls in a row while eating a bag of Doritos, and then go out for wine with my girlfriends and flirt with the bartender.  I can wear super-high heels without worrying about someone’s height, and then I can decide to move to a foreign county to follow my dreams.  (All of which I have actually done, BTW.)

But…

Can’t I have both?

Can’t I have an amazing partner by my side, who supports me, guides me, loves me, and I do the same for him?  Can I find this person, and still live a super, dreamy, sugary, sparkly life?

This is a blog about the adventures of a girl exploring happiness, passion, and love, and for now…

This is why I’m single.